PACE

Introduce

The PACE model, developed by psychologist Dan Hughes, is comprised of four principles:

This approach is rooted in attachment theory as it recognises the critical role of a primary caregiver who can consistently incorporate PACE elements into their interactions. Here are some ideas of how you might use PACE when interacting with young children:

1. Playfulness: engage in imaginative play where you can encourage creativity through role-playing, games, puppets and toys. A sense of humour and silliness creates moments of shared laughter and enjoyment as well as diffusing tension when things are difficult.
2. Acceptance: respond to the child for who they are, rather than how you feel they should be. Create a safe place for self-expression where children feel heard, acknowledged, and validated. Avoid shaming a child for their actions or ideas. Look for constructive ways to address concerns. Practising acceptance helps a child to build her sense of self as well as their confidence and trust in your relationship.
3. Curiosity: be open to learning from the child to understand them better. Ask open-ended questions and actively listen to the answers. This encourages self-reflection.
4. Empathy: Responding to a child with empathy allows a child to know that you understand how they feel. A child might also find comfort knowing that you are trying to see things from their point of view and you are there to support them.

Read more about the PACE approach: here

Develop

Watch the following video, to deepen your understanding about empathy, and how it differs from sympathy:

The PACE model also emphasises the importance of repairing any ruptures that occur in interactions. Using the elements of PACE can restore trust and strengthen the attachment bond. Rupture and repair is part of any relationship, and strengthens the connection between people by building resilience. The focus does not need to be on ensuring that ruptures never occur, but that these ruptures are intentionally repaired.

Reflect

Stop and Reflect: Use the following questions to consider how you might use PACE in your daily interactions:
1. How do you currently use playfulness in your interactions with children, and how does it help build trust and connection?
2. In what ways do you show acceptance of a child’s emotions and behaviours, even when they are challenging?
3. How can curiosity help you better understand a child’s underlying feelings and needs rather than just focusing on their behaviour?
4. How do you demonstrate empathy when responding to children’s emotions, and what impact does this have on their sense of safety and security?
5. What challenges do you face when applying PACE, and how can you develop your practice to use it more effectively in your setting?